“My Father Should Die in Prison” – Caroline Darian Speaks Out in Exclusive Interview
Warning: Sensitive Content
In November 2020, Caroline Darian’s life was changed forever. At 20:25 on a Monday evening, she received a call from her mother, Gisèle Pelicot, that would shatter her world. Gisèle revealed that she had just discovered that her husband, Dominique Pelicot, had been drugging her for over a decade, allowing numerous men to rape her.
Caroline, now 43, vividly remembers the moment: “At that moment, I lost what was a normal life. I shouted, I cried, I even insulted him. It was like an earthquake. A tsunami.”
Dominique Pelicot, a retired grandfather, was sentenced to 20 years in prison following a groundbreaking three-and-a-half-month trial in December. His actions — drugging his wife and orchestrating sexual assaults — not only brought attention to issues of rape and gender violence but also highlighted the lesser-known crime of chemical submission (drug-facilitated sexual assault).
A Horrific Discovery and a Family Torn Apart
Dominique Pelicot’s arrest came after he was caught upskirting in a supermarket. A deeper investigation into his life revealed a horrifying collection of evidence on his devices. Police uncovered thousands of photos and videos showing his wife, Gisèle, unconscious, being raped by strangers — a series of crimes that went on for years.
Caroline and her brothers, Florian and David, rushed to their parents’ home in southern France to support their mother. But soon after, Caroline herself was called in by police, and the revelation became even more personal.
The officers showed Caroline two disturbing photos from her father’s laptop. The images depicted an unconscious woman in her underwear. At first, Caroline didn’t recognize the woman as herself. “I had difficulties recognizing myself,” she says. But when a police officer pointed out a brown mark on her cheek, the truth became undeniable. “I looked at those photos differently then… I was laying on my left side like my mother, in all her pictures.”
Confronting the Reality of Abuse
Caroline is now convinced that her father also abused her — something he has always denied, though he has offered conflicting explanations for the photos. “I know he drugged me, probably for sexual abuse. But I don’t have any evidence,” she admits. This is the painful reality for many victims: “They are not believed because there’s no evidence. They’re not listened to, not supported,” Caroline says.
After her father’s crimes came to light, Caroline wrote a book, I’ll Never Call Him Dad Again, which explores her family’s trauma and dives deeper into the issue of chemical submission. “The drugs typically come from the family’s medicine cabinet—painkillers, sedatives. The danger comes from inside,” she explains.
The Struggle to Move Forward
As Caroline grapples with the painful truth about her father, she faces the emotional burden of being both the daughter of the perpetrator and a victim herself. “It’s a terrible burden,” she reflects. She finds it increasingly difficult to look back on her childhood with Dominique, the man she once called her father.
“When I look back, I don’t really remember the father I thought he was. I look straight to the criminal, the sexual criminal he is,” Caroline says. She emphasizes that she is not the same person as her father: “I am totally different from Dominique.”
Though some have labeled her father a “monster,” Caroline is certain of one thing: “He knew perfectly well what he did, and he’s not sick. He is a dangerous man. There is no way he can get out. No way.”
Dominique Pelicot, now 72, will not be eligible for parole for several years, meaning he may never see his family again.
Rising from the Ashes
Despite the unimaginable trauma, Caroline and her family are finding ways to heal. Her mother, Gisèle, though exhausted from the trial, is recovering and “doing well.” Caroline’s focus now is on raising awareness about chemical submission and educating children about sexual abuse.
She draws strength from her supportive family — her husband, her brothers, and her 10-year-old son, whom she describes as her “lovely son.” Caroline’s commitment to fighting for victims of abuse and speaking out about the dangers of chemical submission has become her life’s mission.
“The events that were unleashed on that November day made me who I am today,” she says. Now, with a heart full of determination, Caroline is ready to look forward, continuing her fight to raise awareness and prevent others from experiencing the horrors she and her mother endured.
A Life Reclaimed, A Future Redefined
In the face of overwhelming trauma, Caroline Darian’s resolve remains unshaken. Through the pain, she has found a purpose — to help invisible victims of abuse, fight for justice, and create a safer world for future generations.
